Quick Catch-Up.

Hello!

It's been quite long since I last posted, and I'm extremely sorry. But, exams are coming up and I had to study, plus I've been a bit busy with some things and was going through an emotional breakdown. I was stuck in a helpless situation and I didn't know what to do, so I needed a lot of time to think things through. Finally, I made some progress and decided to post something, as quite a lot of people were asking if I plan to post anytime soon.

I'm not going to be talking about anything today, I just want to tell you that I will try posting next week, and it's something quite important. So I'm hyped to post that after my exams!

Lets talk about 2017. 

How is it going for all of you? For me, I don't even know. You know that I was thinking it would be a boring year, but damn, I was proven wrong! The level of drama for me is already more than 2016, and it's literally just March! I've been dealing with a bit of anxiety and all, which is why I wasn't posting anything. But tell me, is it just for me? Or is 2017 the same for everyone else?

So what are your plans for this year? Let's talk about that.

I've made quite some plans, I just want this year to be the best. I want this year to be unforgettable. How about you?

Also, I don't think I've told you but I also have a photography page! You can probably see it on the left of this post. Photography has been a great interest of mine, just like writing, so I thought I'd give it a shot, too. So check it out!
And if you want to know me, follow me on Instagram and Tumblr! The links are on the right side of this post.

So yeah, that's whats been going on in my life right now, tell me about yours!

And lastly, I just want to wish everyone writing exams right now good luck! I hope we all make it through these few weeks! So All the Best everyone!

Lots and Lots of Love

Aalia Ansari

P.S: I have joined WordPress! I have decided to shift my blog to WordPress, so I will be posting my blogs there from now on wards. So check my blog out there!
Her Common Life on WordPress

Story Time.

Hello everyone!

Welcome to Story Time with Aalia. I can't say if it's a true incident but it definitely has a lesson attached to it which I honestly feel like people should know, because these days, I have noticed, when we start liking someone, we won't just like them, we obsess over them. It's like, we forget about ourselves completely and all our emotions depend on what they do. Why do we let such people do that to us? I'm not saying that they are bad, I mean its probably a 70:30 ratio of good vs. bad. But it has happened that they didn't turn out to be good people....I've already written about that.

But this story is not just about that, there are so many emotions attached to it. To me, it's a 'one of a kind' story. So here goes..

We all know how much it sucks to be in a bus full of people we hate. That's exactly what had happened to girl, let's name her S. So, S had to move into a new bus, in the starting of a new year and as soon as she entered the bus, she realized most of the people were either very young, or she hated them. But, being the kind of person who doesn't show hatred, she decided to sit with those people. "After all, it's better than sitting alone", she thought.
Time passed and she started liking some of the people in her bus, but not all of them. Some turned out to be the opposite of what she had thought of them to be, some of them were really sweet. But some people were the same throughout, but S didn't care about that. S slowly was becoming close with a girl, who I'll name R. R was one of the people who turned out to be very different, and turns out S just thought of R like that, because she was best friends with someone who S hates. 
R was very nice to S, she even invited her for a birthday party, despite her best friend, G telling her not to. That party changed everything. S and R found a lot in common between the both of them, and they became extremely close. Both of them started trusting each other, and that is when R told S about a guy named C, whom she had just started liking. T thought of C as 'very ugly' and had no idea why she liked him so much, as their choice in guys also was quite the same. S later on kept seeing the guy around and kind of thought, "hey, this guy doesn't seem that bad". Then S decided to help R. S managed to get his pictures for her, although that made a lot of people think S likes C, and not R. S even managed to start talking to C a bit, but both of them realized that this guy may not be what R was expecting. C had no idea who R even was, as she was a very shy person in school. 
R decided to chat with C herself the next day, and they talked quite a lot when S made the mistake of pressing the call button from her own account. C realized S had called him, and blocked both of them the very next moment. R was depressed. S had no idea what to do. S was experiencing a lot of emotions that day, which she mistook for liking C. That's when the story just went downhill. 
S decided to tell R instantly, and R wasn't upset at all. Shocking, eh? Both of them ended up becoming FANGIRLS of this guy C, who still didn't actually know whats going on properly. So C unblocked R later on, and they started talking again.                 
Now the thing was, S and R were quite well known among their grades but C wasn't, as he wasn't funny and usually just walked alone. Initially, C always minded his own business and that was something that S and R liked. C also didn't know how to speak proper English, which was made fun of secretly by the new best friends, S and R. They got extremely close and they talked within themselves so much that they ditched G and a lot of other friends from their neighborhood group. It was just the 2 of them in the end.They were inseparable.
After a while, they started seeing him in school, and the fangirling was never normal:

"OMG OMG DID YOU SEE C TODAY HE LOOKS ADORABLE WITH HIS SLEEVES ROLLED UP OMG AAAAAAAA *heart eyes* HE'S SO CUTE I WANNA HUG HIM AWW"

Yup, it pretty much looked like they were talking about some celebrity.
C realized people were teasing him with S, and that a lot of S's friends started following him on social media, and that he was somewhat gaining popularity because of T. He was liking this newly found "fame", so he decided to show that he's into S as well. He gave these kind of smiles and looks, which made everyone in the grade think of both of them liking each other. This increased the rumors even more. Even though they never talked, there were still so many rumors which were enjoyed by C but not by S or any of her friends. R decided to finally tell C about her feelings, after a lot of encouragement from S. How weird.
When R finally did tell C while chatting, C rudely said "it's a no" and blocked P. She cried and almost cut herself that evening. By now, it was obvious that S and R were both emotionally dependent on C. He wasn't nice to R, when she went to talk to him in school with the help of S. Now, everyone wanted S to tell C how she felt, but S didn't have any courage at all to even say "hi" forget telling him about her feelings. She always broke down near him. It was getting worse day by day. R was slowly getting over him, but S wasn't. The only time S and C talked was after the day the 2 girls prank called him, not saying a word with a fake name. Another friend of S, who wasn't in the same school, decided to call T and ask him about S. The reply was unexpected. C said that S was his ex-girlfriend, and that she's a bitch. No one understood what was going on.
With the help of a lot of friends including R, S realized what was C's motive; to gain popularity through S. This made both of the girls get over C instantly and both of them were very happy. Both of them only had that 10% left, and everything was going great. C lost his popularity and was left alone. He didn't like that. He started asking everyone about S and even told them that they hadn't actually broken up and what not. People were starting to ask questions and this made S shout at C in front of the whole school. Everyone now knew how he was and he was left alone, yet again. 
S and R remained best friends till the end and remained stronger than ever, and C kept making news and messaging T and R , ignored by everyone. P got into another relationship which made C jealous and S started talking to and liking someone else, who C kept staring at.

THE END.

What I love about this is that although their bond had become stronger because of C, it didn't die down because they got over him, in fact it became even better. Friendship goals, right? May or may not be a true story.

I hope you like this, and thank you so much for the love on my last post. Really appreciated. 

Thank you.

Lots and Lots of Love

Aalia Ansari

P.S: Happy Birthday Ed! You deserve all the love in this world and more. I love you.

Faith in Humanity.

Hello.

Things have been going a bit over the top lately, and I don't actually know if this should be such a big deal or not, but I felt horrible I literally lost faith in humanity. I want to know if this would actually make someone lose faith in humanity or if I'm just overreacting. This may be a long post, but please do read the whole thing.Its a sincere request, thank you.

So, what happened was, this girl in my class heard me talking about this guy, who's my friend and had come to my class like once I guess and she saw us talking and stuff, and then a few days later all these teachers are asking me about him. I had absolutely no idea this would happen, because she was nice to me and I did help her quite a lot, even though I didn't actually like her, as she wasn't my friend for the right reasons. I still was nice to her, helped her and I got this in return. 
So many teachers got to know about this, and all of them were asking me and a lot of people in the school also found out. What sucks is that this isn't even true and I did get into trouble, considering the fact that dating isn't allowed in my school. First off, we aren't even dating, get that idea out of your mind and secondly, why would you spread stuff like that about someone when you don't even know what's actually going on, stop going to teachers and telling them stuff like that!
I mean what is wrong with the people in this world right now? Who just spreads stuff about someone to get revenge for something they haven't even done. I'm not spreading about you, who are you to do that about me?!
I'm really sorry, if this seems like a rant session, but I just want to get this off my mind. I asked my friends and even my mom for advice, and they told me to not give a damn about her. But being someone who really wants to understand people's mindset and wants to know how the world works, I still can't stop thinking about it and if you know why this is happening and what I can do to make it better, please do let me know. I really do need your help.
I guess it's just immaturity, that's where the topic of "change" comes in. A lot of people say that I've changed a lot over these few years, they want the 'old me' back and stuff like that which makes change seem like a negative thing, but it's not! I feel like, if you don'r change, you'll end up in a situation where you have immature dreams and plans, like bringing someone's reputation down, or becoming popular and not focus on the real issues in life. I would know, because some time ago even I wanted to become popular. Not exactly popular, but I wanted everyone to like me. I still kind of do, but now it's okay if I find out that someone hates me. But if you don't change, you'll be stuck in that mindset, and not know what the world means when they talk about handling problems. You may even not understand how serious a situation is, for you it may even be funny. That's offensive, isn't it?

But it's also important to understand, that you don't also have to change yourself from the inside, like the real you, to become a better person. Friends usually tell us to not change, this is what they mean. Some people may mean it in a negative way. but you just tell them its for the better. But remember to never change the real you on the inside, and always listen to your heart.

So that's what I had to say about this week. Yes, I have lost a lot of faith in humanity, I've learnt to never trust someone, and to not be a nice person all the time. So if you do see me acting a bit different and rude, I guess, then you know why.

PS: You don't have to believe all this completely, I'm sure there are good people out there. But take it as warning and be careful. Goodbye!

Lots and Lots of Love
Aalia Ansari

Meh.

Hi.

Things have been so boring these days. I mean what do you expect, it's exam season! This sucks. I am definitely not in the mood for studying or anything related to it whatsoever, but yet again, meh.

It's so funny because all these people who say they're gonna fail on the morning of the exam, legit get full marks or they only lose 2 marks. The least you could do is lie!
Legit 1 in 10 people will say they're gonna fail and will actually get marks that need a retest. Shoutout to them!

But anyways, is it just my life that's so boring right now, or it's just a dull phase of this year. Speaking of which, we made it through January 2017! Yay!! Hopefully this year won't suck as much as 2016. But tbh 2015 was an awesome year, but it went by way too fast. 2016 was horrible, but I didn't even realize it passing by so quickly! But I think 2017 is gonna be different. I think it's gonna be a slow year, especially after experiencing January. It was a good month for me, but wasn't it slow? I'm thinking of waiting till March ends to see how this year is gonna go. How about you? Tell me how was 2016 for you personally. I'd really appreciate it. <3

Oh and also, I finally have entered into the world of TV shows! Yes, I had never watched any show before last week. I had only watched some videos and snippets, so I knew about a lot of shows but never took out the time to watch it. But now I have started watching..... Scream Queens! I actually have been wanting to watch it for soooo long, but like I said earlier, didn't get the time. My best friend and I were chilling at her house when we finally just went on Putlocker and started watching for 4 hours straight. So yeah, it's a good show, funny and sarcastic humor, I like it, but there's A LOT OF BLOOD. I have this phobia of blood, so the murder scenes are absolutely terrifying. Please recommend some other shows to watch after finishing Scream Queens in the comments below xoxo

So yeah that's wassup in my life, please do tell me about yours. I just thought of being casual and just writing whatever comes into my brain, being very informal and all, you know? Maybe I should do this at the end of every month...

Okay so I'll see you soon. For now it's a goodbye from me!


Lots and Lots of Love
Aalia Ansari

Love at First Sight.

BIG QUESTION:

Do you believe in love at first sight?

SO many people have talked about this with me and its craaazy because I have no flipping idea-Yikes.

Do you? Please let me know in the comments or message me.

So some people say that love at first sight can be true love because:

"One look at a person could be the first word to starting a complete book."

Quoted by one of my best friends who 100% believes in love at first sight.

Now I mean this COULD be true, but would this work in all cases? Like yeah I know what they say, you'll feel that connection, something something, but people change. People can grow from being something to the complete opposite of what they were earlier. It's not their fault completely, you know? I mean, people obviously experience things in their life, ups and downs, and some of those incidents can change a person drastically. So you can't blame them, but it's possible that that"connection" might not exist anymore because of their changed nature or personality. So the "love at first sight" tag is not always true for this reason. If you have any other reason that you feel that it's not true love, let me know in the comments.

Here's something that makes me happier when I'm sad; believing in miracles. Honestly, some people come into your life like magic and make it waaaay better, you know? Like thinking about some situations of how I met some very special people is actually shocking! Imagine, if that situation hadn't occurred at all, maybe you chose the other given situation in life, or you just didn't try taking the risk. To me, love at first sight could also work like a miracle. Like, it's possible that you may have never even noticed that one person the way you did at that point. And imagine, you actually talked to that person and they turned out to be perfect for you!

 Now looking at a person and feeling that connection doesn't always mean that they look really good or something; it could just be the kind of vibe they give. It doesn't always have to start with the face and all. It's whats on the inside. And I'd like to quote what Selena Gomez said at her AMAs 2016 speech to somewhat support what I'm saying right now, because it's really important:

"I don’t want to see your bodies on Instagram. I want to see what’s in here [holds chest]."

I feel like this really does support what I'm trying to say because Instagram, or any social media in general, is a place where a lot of people can see you. And because of that so many people out there get insecure of what they are on the inside, making them put on a mask for something only that is not permanent at all. There's a chance people fall in love with something that isn't you, and won't it suck when they realize that isn't the real you? 

So please, believe in love at first sight or not, be yourself, always, because it has a huge effect on both sides of the story. Don't give a damn to those who give you negative vibes because you surely will find someone who gives you the perfect vibe for the real you.

I have tried explaining both points from what people have told me about this very phrase, but I still don't know who to believe! Help me in this please! Please do tell me what are your thoughts on love at first sight, and don't forget to like, comment and share this blog with everyone you know! Thank you so much <3

Lots and Lots of Love

Aalia Ansari

Hatred.

"They sell the hereafter for what is so ephemeral."

Hello!

So I was recommended this topic by a friend and honestly, I was like mind-blown with the idea.

PS: Thanks for all the love on this blog! It really does mean a lot to me. I hope you continue to like the kind of posts I'm uploading and feel free to recommend some topics of your choice! Thank you <3

So, this has been happening a lot recently.People are forgetting the main purpose of coming into this world and they're just wasting time and doing nothing about it. We came to this world to spread love, not hatred. We came in this world as a complete team, where no one is any one's enemy and there was no killing. But take a moment to look at our world now. All we have is terrorism and mass killing in the news. It feels like years since we've heard good news on TV. The worst part? It's only going downhill now.

Why did this start? Can't we all just realize that WE'RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER? We may be from a 1000 different places but at the end of the day, we were all sent to the earth for one purpose; to live a peaceful life. No one, I repeat, NO ONE was sent here to kill someone for a 'purpose'. But yet there's so much hate between the races and believe it or not, it's leading to the end of the world.

Now mass killing and all are huge topics, but we all know that hatred has become a thing in everyone on earth. Be it for another person,race,gender or not even a person, an animal! Everyone hates something so bad they regret their existence. Animals are being tortured for no reason and it hurts to see it on the news. Even for the people who are dark-skinned or are too pale, or are too "chubby" or are too thin; they face a lot of crap too. They are just made fun of for no reason and people tend to even somewhat just ignore them, regardless of their personality. This even makes popularity weird, because people aren't always popular for their personality, you know? At least in my school, quite a lot of people are just popular for idek what reason. Its sad because not all 'unpopular' people suck. They can be the funniest people you've ever met in your life! Even in adults, people aren't getting jobs because of their color or race, even if they have all the qualifications. Many races are considered to be known as "terrorists", which is why they receive a lot of hate which they don't deserve.

I don't exactly know how to stop the "big" kind of hate, but I definitely can try stopping the daily one through this blog. Please, if you're reading this, STOP THE HATRED. Stop considering a specific group as something which they're not. Stop making fun of a person for something that could make them insecure of them self. Before you even try to open your mouth to speak of something in that manner, take a brief moment to think,
"Would I like hearing that from someone?"
Lets not say negative things. Lets do the less hate, more compliments thing everyday. instead of laughing at someone, compliment something about them. This small thing could make any one's day 1000 times better. Just like that, your rude comments could make any one's day 1000 times worse.

So less pessimism, more optimism,okay?

That's all i have to talk about for today, please comment how you felt, tell me if you've been through this and we can all go through this together as an awesome team! Also don't forget to share my blog to tell more people about topics like these, I hope it could help someone! Thank you!

Lots and Lots of Love
Aalia Ansari

PS: I also got a good click of the sunset yesterday at the beach, take a look!

Rumors.

Hello!

First of all, thank you so much for the love on my first post, it really means a lot to me. <3
Also, I'd really appreciate it if you could spread the word about my blog to your friends, because I really want as many people to know about what I'm writing as possible cuz who knows, this could actually help someone and that's my main motive: to make someone out there feel better. Thank you!

Anyways, today I want to talk about a major factor for ruining many relationships and reputations: Rumors and people who spread them. Now this is something that literally has the power to make some one's life go from living their big dream to basically living in hell. People who were loved a lot by everyone can just become a victim of mass hate within 3 seconds of a hatepost uploaded by someone. It's actually very scary, because 90% of these rumors aren't true.
Unless you've been living under a rock or something, you've definitely had at least one rumor spread about yourself. And it doesn't just have to be about you only, it could be of you dating someone who you've just started talking to. Usually this ends up making you popular, but it isn't a good thing at all; you're teased by their name and it also could get you in trouble.
The best way to end a rumor is by acting like you're not affected at all, because usually, rumors are spread by people who love to take interest in other's lives and are very annoying, and when they realize you don't care, they'll straight up find someone else to mess with. Rumors are also spread by people who want to ruin your reputation or something, either because they're jealous, or because they want to take revenge against you. If you act like you don't care in this situation, they'll realize it's a bad idea and forget it. Also, luckily for us, rumors also don't stay for very long(unless they're true which rarely happens).
The thing is, I don't find the people who spread rumors bad, you know? Because I believe that in this world, no one is good or no one is bad. It's just people reacting in a good way or in a bad way to a situation. So I wouldn't 'blame' anyone but yeah, you can't mess with someone Else's life like that either. So if you take interest in ruining lives or just wanting to know everything about everyone, honestly there's only one thing to say: get a life. But if you plan to take revenge on someone by spreading rumors about them, then lemme tell you that isn't the best way to react to something negative from them. Best way? Talk it out! It really does work and has a better effect than telling people what they've been "doing". Also, if someone spreads stuff about you, don't take revenge by spreading stuff about them, because that's just a cheap action by them, you don't want to stoop so low, do you?

I've been noticing so much of "rumor drama" that I just wanted to talk about it. We really do need to realize that this kind of envy isn't good for us at all! The best thing would be for all of us to just drop the hate and literally, have peace with everyone around you. Gotta have the good vibes!

So that's all for now, I hope this helps someone out there! Please like,comment and share if you can so that more and more people could get to know about my blog. 

Lots and Lots of Love
Aalia Ansari

Obsession.

Hello again!

It's me, Aalia and I'm here again to talk about something I just learnt and I really felt the need to share with you.

You know people usually obsess over celebrities, or fictional characters from television series or books in general right? What am I saying, I'm sure even you obsess or 'fangirl' over someone or something (idk some people out there can be obsessed with a non living object). Even I do, over many things which can't be counted.If you don't know what I mean, you've definitely seen someone who does this:

"OMG OMG I LOOOOOOVEEE ZAYN SO MUCH I JUST WANT HIM TO STRANGLE ME WITH HIS LOOSE STRAND OF HAIR THAT FALLS SO PERFECTLY ON HIS WOWW" *heart eyes emoji x200*

Fangirls.

No offense to Zayn fans, I personally LOVE Zayn myself.(it was his birthday yesterday aww <3)

But yes, that has become so common these days it's pretty much normal. But here's something that isn't normal. Obsessing over people, who don't deserve it.
When I say this, I''m not talking about any celeb or character or anything, they totally deserve what they got. I'm talking people like:

• Your deceitful 'best friend'
• Your 'crush' who's actually the biggest jerk

You get what I'm saying right? These kind of people are the worst to be with, but that would be last thing a person who loves those pieces of crap would want to hear. 

Actually, even I have experienced it and so did two of my best friends(genuine ones). It's already quite painful being a victim, but when you see someone YOU love so much break because of someone THEY love so much who doesn't deserve all that love, that's waayy worse.

I'll tell you what happens.

So, you meet this person, okay? Or you don't even meet the person, you just see them. First meeting, they're nice and all. You like them and stuff.And then you get the idea that "aww this person is so sweet!" but everyone else keeps telling you to back off from them. You just listen and ignore what they say. You think "how could THIS person be so bad? They're as sweet as a cupcake!"

ok now I'm hungry :(

Anyways, you keep thinking crap like that till a point where you get obsessed, but you don't even realize it. Every one's warning you, but you can't see the negatives. Or, you do see the negatives, but you choose to ignore them thinking, "they don't make a difference to you". Also, that person is out there probably making conspiracies against you which everyone knows about, except you. They're all sweet to your face, you love them so much, you think everything is perfect, when its the complete opposite.

But then slowly, you start to realize things as their true colors come out,bit by bit. But it's too late now, you still want everything to stay together and not fall apart!What does this lead to?

Depression,anxiety,loss of sleep, and loss of friends,because some of them actually gave up on you.

You try to walk away at a point, thinking that you don't need this person anymore. But they pull you back. It's almost impossible to escape now.You think you're the bad person, and the only solution is to kill yourself.

So yes, that's what happens. And what I've told you is NOTHING compared to how it actually is.

You're gonna think there's no solution for this problem but obviously, every problem has a solution.

But here, the only solution is to try and try and to keep telling yourself that you hate them, and that  this is NOT what you deserve. Because it actually isn't! You deserve people in your life who love you and support you at all times, and who don't talk crap behind your back. And you have got to realize that you can get over a person in .2 seconds or in 2 months. It depends. But you've got to be patient and keep trying and someday, you might find yourself making fun of the same person. Or just cringing at how you were. But that also, it isn't your fault. It was an experience, you learnt stuff and look, you've grown up even more!

So yeah, I know this was an extremely long post but honestly it's also really important and I hope someone out there gets the advice they need through this post.

That's all for today, please comment on how you felt reading this post, and if it affected you in any way.

Lots and Lots of Love

Aalia Ansari

Introduction about the Common Girl

Hi!

Here's my first post on this new blog of mine. I've actually never had a blog before, so I don't have any idea about how this blog thing works, but what I've seen till now is that blogs are usually written about a specific topic like music, or literature or current affairs, etc etc. But I don't want to keep it that way, I want it to be my way. I'd like to start a blog on my life. When I say my life, I don't mean something like:

"Hello.
So today I met my friends during recess. It was fun. Nothing much to say about today. Okay gtg for dinner.
Bye."

I mean to view my thoughts on what I've been learning in my life, like the lessons we learn through our mistakes or through other's mistakes .It's like thinking out loud, and showing your thoughts to the world. I don't know if people are actually going to like this idea, but I have to mention the fact that 'Girl Online' by Zoe Sugg is my inspiration for this kind of blog. I've been wanting to start for quite some time but procrastination came in the way. Finally, a day like today came into the world

Before we start with the main thing, let's get to know each other better, yeah?
I'm Aalia Ansari, I'm a 14 year old Indian who lives in Doha, Qatar(check it out if you don't know where it is, it's near Dubai, UAE).I'm currently a 9th grader who's kind of suffering with an existential crisis as I do not have any idea at all what I'm going to do with my life. It may not seem very serious to you, but lemme tell you when you're 14 in an Indian household, you just have to know what to do in the future, otherwise you're 'doomed'.

I don't really know what to tell you about my interests and all, I think we'll let that go with the flow. But I'd love to know some things about you too! Please feel free to comment and tell me about yourself, I'd absolutely LOVE to be friends with you!!

So this is it for my first post on my blog. I'm just hoping you like it.

Lots and Lots of Love
Aalia Ansari
Bye!